Xperience...

Date : 4/3/2010

Time : 20.04pm

Venue: In front of my laggy computer

Some times really envy friend’s couple life… Looking both of them support each other whenever face any tough moment …indestructible relationship always solve whatever barrier in front of them…before jump into a relationship, always think that is easy to maintain each other passion in long run relationship…as long as each other put some confidence and trust in this relationship. Some of my friends have been being in relationship for 3 years, some 5 years, some even get in to marriage…sometimes I really curious how do they make it...maintains a happiness relationship...hahaha…sound easy…

Before that…I thought I am actually prepared everything for it…but when Im actually involve in a relationship…damn…!!! Its not such simpe as I think…it is always exceed my expectation…as a beginner…everything have to start from zero…what to do…

Learn to be romanced (but every romance she experienced before..its nothing special to her d…),

Learn to give sweet talk (Last time I even learn sweet talk from magazine and internet…whenever I recall, I will scold myself why I am so stupid!!!Now I learn to be honest, talk from my heart…its more effective to be honest compare to fake sweet talk==’’’),

Give her a surprise secretly (Although I really never give her surprise successfully…not even once…she is too smart…mind reader…>< ) ,

Learn to be a good audience when she is talking (Last time I always like to interrupt when people talking, maybe I always been anxious to get more information),

Massage her when she is tired n apply cream on her hand and back after she bath to prevent body get itchy.(I know this one should be woman responsibility...but…I dun really care...as long as she need it…)

I always thought as long as devote all I can...maybe will be worth...currently...it proves all these are not necessary the best to everyone…it is really depend on each other’s feeling…the following is what I have been done all the time...and its not working surprisingly…

1. Giving anything to satisfy any she/he wants…

**Hm…things u gave not necessary are what she looking for…the thing she want maybe just a simple accompany for a couple hours and we are always forget about it.

2.Care of her anytime no matter she/ he need it or not…

**Caring her too much sometimes may bring stress to him/her, sometime we will more like a annoying fly to her...

3.Surprise she/ he aperiodically to refresh and warm up relationship and memory…

**Woman like surprise...nothing special to talk about it…but please learn to be smart...dun let her know before that…><

4.Mentally support and encourage when she/he is facing problem and stress…

**If those supports can be more directly like hugging her…its more effective than verbal or word sometimes…remember…action represent thousand words...

5.Be mature, because it is necessary for long time relationship…willing to forgive her/him for accidently mistake.

** It is reasonable…she/him is your lover...not doggy…if keep blaming each other…there is nothing advantage to this relationship…

6.Always think twice before speak out some things that may seriously hurt her/him.

**Sometimes those words u have spoken out may hurt him/her seriously…maybe you will feel nothing…but u never know the time you said…her/his heart were actually bleeding…always stand at people point of view…

7.Giving them privacy and space even both of you are couple…She/he may keep ex photo, but its does not mean she/ he still love with ex…its just for memory…so...be generous….

**Everyone has their pass…so why should we have to take over his/her pass…just because of the past they can learn from the mistake and keep reminding themselves not to repeat the same mistakes again…doesn’t it?